The anxiety I feel when I'm late is nothing
like the anxiety I feel when I'm on time.
Anxiety is part of life. If you can accept this basic truth, you can free up valuable internal resources to help you manage the symptoms of anxiety in healthy ways when it inevitably arises.
Anxiety is Part of Life
No medication or meditation can cure anxiety or make it disappear. To be anxious is to be human and vice versa.
It is also not a recent or modern phenomenon as some may have you believe. The 6th Century Chinese philosopher and writer Lao Tzu noted:
If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.
Early humans were constantly anxious about the availability of food sources; of being eaten by wild animals; of natural disasters, etc. It would seem then that anxiety is in our genetic hardwiring. It is an integral part of the human experience.
Accepting the truth that anxiety is a normal part of everyday life is immensely liberating. It is one of the best natural techniques available for freeing up your inner resources so you can effectively manage the inevitable causes and symptoms of anxiety when they arises.
One of the curious things about anxiety is that it can quickly create a vicious cycle if you try to ignore it, distract yourself or pretend its not there.
For some reason not immediately known to you, a situation or scenario causes your thoughts to spiral out of control. The "what-if" scenarios you can conjure up are infinite. You irrationally catastrophize the situation: "I'll make a fool of myself"; "I'll fall flat on my face"; I'll say something awkward". In response your fight, flight or freeze responses are triggered. There is a "lion" chasing you. Your chest begins to constrict, your breathing becomes shallow, your heart starts to beat violently.
The physical symptoms of anxiety are frightening. And because these symptoms are frightening, we quickly become anxious about experiencing these symptoms again and seek to avoid them. It is an understandable response. If the symptoms start to arise you think "oh no! it's happening again!" You then become anxious about being anxious and the symptoms compound before anything has even happened. You worry that others may notice you're anxious. Your anxiety builds on itself. The vicious cycle is well underway.
Your limited internal resources are being consumed by trying to distract yourself or fighting to ignore something that is integral to being human.
You cannot make anxiety disappear. Trying to make it go away creates a vicious cycle. You can only learn to manage inevitable anxiety until you are able to finally process the underlying causes. Uncovering the foundation of your anxiety may take time and effort. In the meantime, you need tools to manage the symptoms so they don't limit you from living life.
Natural Remedies for Anxiety
There are plenty of things to be genuinely anxious about: will you be able to find a good job, afford to live independently, buy a home, get married, support a family? Below are a list of great links that provide tips and ideas for how to manage anxiety naturally:
Essential Oils for Managing Anxiety
In our small corner of the world, we believe that essential oils have the ability to affect emotions, behaviour and wellbeing. Therefore, essential oils can be added to the toolbox of tactics for managing anxiety naturally.
Essential oils elicit emotional reactions unique to each individuals. If an essential oil uplifts or energizes your spirit, it may also be helpful in managing anxiety.
The most commonly used essential oils for anxiety are:
Anxiety is a normal part of everyday life. Accepting this allow you to free up valuable inner resources to manage the inevitable anxiety. You cannot make anxiety disappear. It takes time to understand and process the underlying causes. In the mean time, with your freed up inner resources, you are more capable of managing the symptoms of anxiety so it does not prevent you from pushing beyond your boundaries to accomplish your life goals and dreams.